Introduce SenderInfo struct and pkg/identity package to standardize user
identification across all channels. Each channel now constructs structured
sender info (platform, platformID, canonicalID, username, displayName)
instead of ad-hoc string IDs. Allow-list matching supports all legacy
formats (numeric ID, @username, id|username) plus the new canonical
"platform:id" format. Session key resolution also handles canonical
peerIDs for backward-compatible identity link matching.